Korean · Intermediate (B1) · Chapter 4 of 12
Feelings and relationships
감정과 관계Gamjeonggwa gwangye
Talk about feelings in Korean: your own and other people's (-아/어하다), react with -겠다 and -네, and give a friend advice with -는 게 어때?
In this chapter you'll learn to
- Name common feelings: glad, sad, angry, upset, hurt, worried
- Talk about other people's feelings with -아/어하다
- React to news with -겠다 (that must be…) and -네 (oh, I see)
- Give a friend advice with -는 게 어때? and -아/어 봐
Listen
In the flat they share in Gwangju, Choi Hyeri notices that her flatmate Kim Nayeon is upset. Listen to the whole dialogue first, then line by line.
Hyeri
나연아, 오늘 기분 안 좋아? 무슨 일 있어?
Nayeona, oneul gibun an joa? Museun il isseo?
Nayeon, are you feeling down today? Is something wrong?
Nayeon
응. 어제 수빈이하고 싸웠어.
Eung. Eoje Subinihago ssawosseo.
Yeah. I had a fight with Subin yesterday.
Hyeri
수빈이? 너희 둘 정말 친한데, 왜 싸웠어?
Subini? Neohui dul jeongmal chinhande, wae ssawosseo?
Subin? But you two are really close. Why did you fight?
Nayeon
내 생일이었는데 수빈이가 연락을 안 했어. 너무 서운했어.
Nae saengirieonneunde Subiniga yeollageul an haesseo. Neomu seounhaesseo.
It was my birthday, and Subin didn't get in touch. I felt really hurt.
Hyeri
아, 정말 서운했겠다.
A, jeongmal seounhaetgetda.
Oh, that must have really hurt.
Nayeon
그래서 오늘 아침에 전화해서 화를 냈어. 그런데 수빈이도 화가 났어.
Geuraeseo oneul achime jeonhwahaeseo hwareul naesseo. Geureonde Subinido hwaga nasseo.
So I called her this morning and got angry with her. But then Subin got angry too.
Hyeri
수빈이는 뭐라고 했어?
Subinineun mworago haesseo?
What did Subin say?
Nayeon
그날 회사 일 때문에 너무 바빴대. 수빈이도 많이 속상해했어.
Geunal hoesa il ttaemune neomu bappatdae. Subinido mani soksanghaehaesseo.
She says she was really busy with work that day. She was really upset too.
Hyeri
그럼 서로 오해가 있었네. 네가 먼저 사과하는 게 어때?
Geureom seoro ohaega isseonne. Nega meonjeo sagwahaneun ge eottae?
So you misunderstood each other. Why don't you apologise first?
Nayeon
내가 먼저? 나도 서운했는데.
Naega meonjeo? Nado seounhaenneunde.
Me, first? But I was hurt too.
Hyeri
알아. 그래도 솔직하게 네 기분을 말해 봐. 괜찮을 거야.
Ara. Geuraedo soljikage ne gibuneul malhae bwa. Gwaenchaneul geoya.
I know. But tell her honestly how you feel. It'll be fine.
Nayeon
알았어. 나도 좀 걱정됐어. 지금 연락해 볼게.
Arasseo. Nado jom geokjeongdwaesseo. Jigeum yeollakhae bolge.
OK. I was a bit worried too. I'll get in touch with her now.
Understand
My feelings, your feelings: -아/어하다
Korean feeling words are adjectives: (gippeoyo), I'm glad; (seulpeoyo), I'm sad. You use them for your own feelings, and in questions about the listener's: (seulpeoyo?), are you sad?
You can't see inside another person, so for someone else's feelings Korean adds -아하다 / -어하다 to the stem, which turns the feeling into something they show: (Subiniga soksanghaehaesseo), Subin was upset; (dongsaengi gippeohaeyo), my brother is glad. You already know two of these: (joahada) comes from (jota), and (sireohada) from (silta).
(hwaga nada) is to feel angry; (hwareul naeda) is to show it, to get angry at someone. (geokjeongdoeda) is to feel worried; (geokjeonghada) is to worry about something.
| Feeling | Me (I'm…) | Someone else (he / she is…) |
|---|---|---|
| (gippeuda), glad, happy | (gippeoyo) | (gippeohaeyo) |
| (seulpeuda), sad | (seulpeoyo) | (seulpeohaeyo) |
| (soksanghada), upset | (soksanghaeyo) | (soksanghaehaeyo) |
| (seounhada), hurt, let down | (seounhaeyo) | (seounhaehaeyo) |
| (hwaga nada), angry | (hwaga nayo) | (hwareul naeyo), gets angry |
That must be hard: -겠다; oh, I see: -네
-겠다 (-겠어요 in polite speech) after a stem is a guess from what you've just heard. With feelings it shows sympathy: (himdeulgetda), that must be hard. With the past, -았/었겠다: (seounhaetgetda), that must have hurt.
-네 (-네요) reacts to something you have just noticed or realised: (ohaega isseonne), so there was a misunderstanding; (nalssiga jonneyo), oh, the weather's nice. It's never used for things you already knew.
| Your friend says… | You react |
|---|---|
| (Eoje hansumdo mot jasseo.) I didn't sleep a wink last night. | (Pigonhagetda.) You must be tired. |
| (Siheome tteoreojyeosseo.) I failed the exam. | (Soksanghagetda.) You must be upset. |
| (Jigabeul chajasseo.) I found my wallet. | (Dahaengine.) Oh, what a relief. |
| (Chinguga saengireul ijeosseo.) My friend forgot my birthday. | (Seounhaetgetda.) That must have hurt. |
Advice to a friend: -는 게 어때? and -아/어 봐
-는 게 어때? (-는 게 어때요? in polite speech) means “how about…?”, “why don't you…?”. Add it to the stem of an action verb: (sagwahaneun ge eottae?), why don't you apologise? A ㄹ stem drops the ㄹ: (mandeulda) → (mandeuneun ge eottae?).
You know -아 / -어 보다 (try) from A2. In (banmal), -아 봐 / -어 봐 is friendly advice or encouragement: (malhae bwa), go on, tell her; (yeollakhae bwa), get in touch with her.
(seoro) means “each other”, and the verb stays as it is: (seoro joahaeyo), they like each other; (seoro yeollakhaeyo), we keep in touch.
More in the grammar: Guesses: -(으)ㄹ 것 같다, -겠-, -나 보다 · Nuanced endings: -네요, -잖아요, -거든요 and more
New words
- 기분gibunmood, how you feel · (gibuni joayo), I'm in a good mood; (gibuni an joayo), I feel down; (museun il isseoyo?), is something wrong? (, museun, what kind of)
- 싸우다ssaudato fight, to argue · (chinguhago ssawosseoyo), I had a fight with a friend
- 친하다chinhadato be close (friends) · (chinhan chingu), a close friend
- 연락하다yeollakhadato contact, to get in touch · (yeollak), contact; (yeollak juseyo), please get in touch
- 서운하다seounhadato feel hurt, let down (by someone close) · (saengire yeollagi eopseoseo seounhaesseoyo), I was hurt that I heard nothing on my birthday (, saengil).
- 화가 나다hwaga nadato get angry, to be angry · (hwareul naeda), to get angry at someone, to show it
- 속상하다soksanghadato be upset, distressed
- 서로seoroeach other, one another
- 오해ohaemisunderstanding · (ohaehada), to misunderstand
- 먼저meonjeofirst, before others · (meonjeo gaseyo), after you (go first)
- 사과하다sagwahadato apologise · (sagwa) also means “apple”.
- 솔직하게soljikagehonestly, frankly · from (soljikada), to be honest
- 괜찮을 거야gwaenchaneul geoyait'll be fine · polite (gwaenchaneul geoyeyo)
- 걱정되다geokjeongdoedato be worried · (geokjeongdwaeyo), I'm worried; (geokjeonghaji maseyo), don't worry
Practise
1.Your friend has worked until midnight every day this week. How do you react?
2.You're telling a friend how your younger brother felt when his dog died. Which is correct?
3.Hyeri gives Nayeon some advice. Put the words in order.
Tap the words below in the right order.Why don't you apologise first?
4.Match the Korean with the English.
Pick a word on the left, then its meaning on the right.
5.When do you say (seounhae)?
6.Put the words in order.
Tap the words below in the right order.Tell her honestly how you feel.
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Say it out loud
많이 힘들었겠어요.
Mani himdeureotgesseoyo.
That must have been really hard.
Listen, then say it out loud, as close to the recording as you can.
Check
Five questions on this chapter. Then mark it as finished to add its words to your review deck.
0 of 5 answered.